The Bible speaks of dreams. God spoke to many in dreams and others had visions through dreams ... Abimelech, Jacob, Laban, Joseph, Pharaoh, and the list goes on. Joseph’s dreams outlined his entire life. At the time of his dreams, I do not think Joseph realized the significance of them. His brothers mocked him when he shared his dreams. We have to be careful who we confide in. People, and sometimes unconsciously, will stomp on your vision. As with all personal issues in life, be wise in choosing who will be your confidante. Seek God’s advice first and foremost. If you have a dream and you know it is of God, then go with it. Do not allow others to dissuade you or hinder what God is doing in your life. People do not mean to be ugly or discouraging. Sometimes they simply do not have the relationship with God that you do ... or they do not understand your relationship with God. Tread very cautiously in this area.
I think in order to declare a dream is of God you need to ponder a few things first: (1) Does the dream line up with God’s Word; (2) Does the dream cause harm or danger to anyone; (3) Does the dream deal with something you have been seeking God for; (4) What is the significance of the dream; and (5) Does it leave you with peace? These are my guidelines when I think a dream is of God. I have to honestly say that as of the typing of this article, I can only remember two dreams being of God over the past 16+ years. Both had a real significance to me.
One of those dreams gave me hope for the future and where I sense God is leading me. It filled me with such an overwhelming sense of peace for the salvation of individuals I pray for daily. It encouraged me and allows me today to walk slowly knowing God is leading. When I become frustrated over what appears to be a lack of action happening towards where I sense God is leading me, I remember this dream and I am overwhelmed with encouragement and a sense of calm. Of course, I have to choose to bring the dream to remembrance. Some times we just prefer to remain on the pity pot or throw in the towel. I have come too far to turn back now.
The second dream was about a loved one and an issue I had struggled with for years. I had this foreboding in the pit of my gut that would not go away. I needed answers. Finally, through a dream, God gave me my answers. Now I rest in peace knowing I will be with my loved one again. It is this dream that I wrote an article about. I again share it here.
“A Dream Or A Message (Edited/Revised)”
I lost my best friend years ago unexpectedly. Since that time, I have only had one very precise dream about her and it occurred shortly after her death … UNTIL NOW!
Before I share this most personal dream with you, I need you to understand the significance of what her loss meant to me. I have told people on more than one occasion that if there were such a thing as a ‘soul mate’ where friendships were concerned, then she was mine. Our relationship was far from perfect, but it was faithful and endured much. I continue to have many very special friends in my life, and in the past I have had many. I would even go so far as to say I have had a best friend since then. However, the friendship I refer to here was different. It was unlike any friendship I have had in the past or will probably ever have in the future. Simply put, I never had a friendship as this and I will probably never have it again.
Others saw our dedication to one another also, as was evident on one occasion. She and I were sitting in this bar drinking when another girl came over and joined us. As we sat there chatting, this other girl finally broke in and said, “I have to tell you guys that I admire your loyalty to one another. I have watched you both over the years and you are always taking care of one another. I have never seen anything like it and I wish I had it.” We just sort of looked at each other and chuckled.
We argued … one day we were both very tired as she was helping me move. We had been at it all day. We were headed to my dad’s store … me in one vehicle loaded down with items and her following me in another vehicle loaded. When we pulled out of my driveway, I had left either her cell phone or my cell phone on the top of my vehicle. As I proceeded down the road, with her following behind me, for whatever reason she was continually honking her horn. I just assumed she was acting crazy which was not uncommon for either of us. We finally reached my dad’s store and pulled into the driveway. As I was cutting off my engine and commencing to getting out of my vehicle, she jumped out of her truck and started in on me. Being tired as we were, I then started in on her.
I am not sure how long this continued. I cannot imagine it was very long. We must have been louder than we should have been. It brought my dad to the door. As he was coming through the door to see what all the commotion was about, a customer was pulling in the driveway. My dad came out and said, “What in the heck is going on out here?” Before either I or she could respond, the customer said, “Earl, don’t worry about it. They are just having a lover’s spat.” We looked at each other and just broke down laughing.
During the years of our friendship, we went through a great deal together. There were things I said to her I wish now I could take back, and there were things she had said to me that I knew she did not mean. No matter what we said, it never hindered or deterred how we felt about one another.
We were loyal to one another. She never allowed me to distance myself from her, or vice versa. Before becoming a Christian, my way of dealing with things was to lock people away and become a recluse. On one particular occasion, I was having a nice little (and private) pity party. I had been held up in my house, feeling sorry for myself, for about 2 days. I would not answer the phone or return calls. One morning as I was just waking up, I heard my front door open. You could tell by the way the door opened and the heaviness of the person’s walk that they were on a mission. Before I could gather my thoughts together, my bedroom door flew open, and she said, “If you think you are going to avoid me forever and just sit here feeling sorry for yourself, you are crazy.” She crawled in the bed with me and said, “We can feel sorry for ourselves together.” Again, we started to laugh. As normal, it was over.
This is just the way we were with each other. Then, when I gave my life to Christ, though we were walking different paths, we still spoke every morning and were there for each other. About a year after my conversion, I talked her into going to a Christian concert with me. It was during this Christian conconcert that I knew without a doubt she had given her life to Christ. She could not stop talking about it all the way home. She anxiously told me she would be going to church with me soon. Unfortunately, soon never came as God had other plans for her and called her home. Her mom shared with me later how my friend had circled in red on her calendar the Sunday she was going to church with me. Now, maybe you can understand the significance of this dream:
I was sitting on a park bench and I had my head in my hands crying. As I was sitting there, I could feel someone put their arms around my shoulders and sit down next to me. As I lifted my head to see who it was, it was my friend. At first I just stared at her. Then suddenly I could feel this anger seeping in. I sort of slid away from her and I said through my tears, “Why did you leave me? Now I have no one to talk to and I feel all alone. I do not know what to do with all of this hurt over things in my life. I do not understand why people we both loved have distanced themselves from me. I do not understand why people think I am a Christian fanatic. Why do people want to hurt me when all I want to do is help them? Why do people want to talk about me behind my back? You are not here to reassure me and I am alone.”
She reached over and wiped the tears from my eyes. As she did, she said, “Janet, you are never alone and I did not leave you. I am with you every day. I know things are not as they were, but I can tell you that you are exactly who you should and need to be. Do you remember when you used to tell me all the time not to allow what others thought of me to define who I was, and how if they did not accept the love I had, then it was their loss? Well, now I am saying that to you. Do not ever change what you are doing or who you are. It is touching lives even though you do not always get to witness it firsthand. I love you and I am always right here beside you. But, listen to me, I need to share something with you. I am not making light of what you are going through right now, but that is not why I came. I came to thank you and to show you that what you do does matter, as it mattered to me. You allowed God to use you to save me from living eternity in hell. If it were not for your persistence and love, I would not be in heaven today. I would be spending my eternity in pain and suffering. Don’t you see … you loved me enough to be honest with me no matter what I said. You cared more about me than you did about what I thought of you. You saved my life and you are saving other people’s lives also. Please ... take my word for this. As for people we loved hurting you or whatever, I don’t know what to say. It confuses me and it is not as I would want it to be. I simply do not have the capacity to think of things as this. In heaven, I have nothing but joy in my heart. I am not suffering with all the issues I had when here on earth. I am happy.”
As I looked at her, she just radiated with happiness and she looked so young. I said to her, “Don’t you miss me and everyone else?” She replied, ”Again, I don’t have the capacity to feel such things. Heaven is just about being happy and loving God. I am spending time with your mom and dad, and other people I know. It is wonderful and I have you to thank for that … you and our Heavenly Father.”
I started to cry again and I said, “It is unfair that you left me. I need you here.” She replied, in a very stern but loving voice, “Janet, listen to me. My time here was over. I had served my purpose. You are still needed here. Do you remember the vision God gave you a few months back? Well it is not fulfilled yet?(I sat with my mouth opened in awe that she even knew about this vision.) Please, just listen to me. You are not alone. I am watching over you, but more importantly, God is watching over you. He has great things in store for you. Just do not change no matter what others say, don’t say, or do to you. Keep your eyes focused on Him.”
As she was saying this, she was beginning to fade. I reached out to her to stop her from leaving, and she said, “I have to go but more importantly I want to go. If given the chance, I would not return. I would not give up this sense of peace and happiness that I share for anyone. I love you. I am always with you, and oh yeah, this should make you happy … your son and daughter love you and cannot wait to meet you. Good bye my friend.”
As quickly as she came, she left. When I woke from my dream, I felt such peace. I knew without a doubt it was indeed real and my friend had visited with me. Now, as for me crying and being upset, I do not know what that was all about. I am struggling with a few things but nothing as dramatic as this dream seemed to convey. I am a bit disillusioned by some people in my life, but I guess she knew something I am not aware of as of yet. Some of the things she said made total sense to me and some left me baffled. I know there is a message here for me, and I will pray God reveals it at some point. I am sure He will, but only in His time. I so enjoyed our short visit. It did not leave me longing for more, but thankful for what we had. (End of article)
The other dream my friend referred to is the one that I now know was shared with me to daily give me encouragement and hope. It certainly does everytime I need it.
I cherish this dream. As I share this with you today, I can replay this dream in my head as if it were only yesterday. It was actually in July of 2013. She encouraged me when she was here and she continues to encourage me.
Dreams can be great. Dreams can be answers. Dreams can be of God. Dreams, however, can also be the opposit of everything here. If you think God has given you a vision in a dream, pray over it. See how it measures up against God’s Word. Do not take anything for granted. It is too dangerous, especially if others will be effected by your dream. If one iolta of your dream does not line up with God’s Word, then let it go. God is not part of anything tainted. Do not be fooled!