This lady has a wonderful husband and some pretty awesome children. Her husband is hard working, a good provider, and treats her with respect. He lacks in the little things and forgets birthdays, Easters, and so forth. What I wanted her to see was the larger picture. Her husband has never been unfaithful to her ... he has never abused her either verbally or physically ... he is a good provider and a wonderful example to his children. In all their years of marriage, he has never left her or not been there to support her during difficult times. Yes, he could be more attentive in other areas, but which would she prefer ... the husband she had that forgets Mother’s Day or the husband some have that will make a big splash about this day but forget all the other days.
Her children are good kids. They are old enough to plan something special for her on Mother’s day, but they are only doing as they have exampled over the years. They never saw dad make a big deal of it, so they do not think it is a big deal. However, as with her husband, they have never caused her reason for grief ... got good grades in school ... they are respectful and so forth. Again, does she want this one special day or the other remaining days of the year?
I know that Mother’s Day, Easter, Valentine’s Day, and all the others are special days. We should always take the time to point out our Moms on these days. I never missed a Mother’s Day with my mom that I can remember. Though I was a mother also, I would gather my husband and daughter ... my son as the years passed ... and we would head to Mom’s for dinner. I always wanter her to feel special and I bought her flowers and gifts on all the special days. It was my heart’s desire and I knew what it meant to her.
If your children do not do this for you and your husband fails miserably in this department, I do not make little of how disappointed and hurtful it can be. Been there ... done that! However, I try to focus on the bigger picture and thank God for how blessed I am the remainder of the year.
I strongly encourage all to make this day and all the holidays special for your mom. If you cannot afford to purchase her flowers or a gift, then a card will do. If you cannot afford the card, then simply go visit her and spend quality time with her. It is you she wants in reality and not the gifts. She wants to feel appreciated. So little to do for some one that has given so much.
Do not put your mom in a position where she feels she has to guilt you into coming to see her. And, Moms, do not do that to your children. It is wrong on all sides and only causes long-term pain. I do not applaud those that overlook this day, but if you have a husband and children that are basically good to you all year, then suck it up and get over it. Smile that you have Mother’s Day everyday whereas some only have it on this day.
Happy Mother’s Day from me to you all!